7 Principles for Facing Conflict

Seven Principles for Facing Conflict

The Book of Philemon is a great example of how Christians should respond to conflict. June Hunt takes seven practical principles from Paul’s letter to Philemon that we can apply when aiming for reconciliation after conflict.

  1. HUMILITY—Don’t use your higher position to take advantage of those in a lower position.
    “Therefore, although in Christ I could be bold and order you to do what you ought to do, yet I prefer to appeal to you on the basis of love. It is as none other than Paul—an old man and now also a prisoner of Christ Jesus…” (Philemon 8–9)
  2. INTEGRITY—Be absolutely honest about the problems.
    “…that I appeal to you for my son Onesimus, who became my son while I was in chains. Formerly he was useless to you, but now he has become useful both to you and to me.” (Philemon 10–11)
  3. VULNERABILITY—Share your heart feelings.
    “I am sending him—who is my very heart—back to you. I would have liked to keep him with me so that he could take your place in helping me while I am in chains for the gospel.” (Philemon 12-13)
  4. SUBMISSION—Don’t force an action not under your control.
    “But I did not want to do anything without your consent…” (Philemon 14a)
  5. OPTIMISM—Expect the best of another.
    “… so that any favor you do would not seem forced but would be voluntary.” (Philemon 14b)
  6. FAITH—Remember the sovereign hand of God.
    “Perhaps the reason he was separated from you for a little while was that you might have him back forever—no longer as a slave, but better than a slave, as a dear brother. He is very dear to me but even dearer to you, both as a fellow man and as a brother in the Lord.” (Philemon 15–16)
  7. EXHORTATION—Choose your words carefully.
    “Confident of your obedience, I write to you, knowing that you will do even more than I ask.” (Philemon 21)

Key Verse to Memorize

“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.” (Romans 14:19)

 


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June Hunt

June Hunt

June Hunt, M.A. Criswell College, is a biblical counselor whose award-winning radio program "Hope For The Heart" is heard on 900 radio outlets around the world. For more than 25 years, she has counseled people, offering them hope for today's problems. June has helped many people with emotional, relational, and spiritual problems experience God's love through biblical hope and practical help. Click here to find out more about Hope for the Heart.

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